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What Can You Learn From My Perfect Imperfect Hypnobirth?

Wow!  I can't believe it’s taken me this long to put ‘metaphorical pen to paper’ to share my, Caesar’s – well my version of events about Caesar's story….Right, I'm happy now I’ve got that straight?  To be honest it doesn’t really matter that it was 3 years, 4 months, 13 days and 11 hours ago, because whilst it really doesn’t feel like it was yesterday, it certainly is etched in my memory like a love heart on the surface of one of those old wooden school desks. So after a very, very long wait, 40 weeks and 11 days, I mean that's long right?  Especially as we knew from about 3 weeks, it's a long time by anybody's reckoning.   And as it often is with first time mums (actually I didn't know 2nd time around either, but that's another story) I wasn’t 100% that the wait was finally over.  However, what I was sure about, is that I deserved to get out of the house and have a really nice meal.  The rule book went out of the window and I enjoyed some gorgeous pate and a large glass of red wine… Of course I’m not advocating that irresponsible behaviour , but I felt as though I’d done my time and I wanted a treat.   So, as we tucked into our food, gradually there became no doubt that the...

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Is The Fear Of Miscarriage Stopping You From Enjoying Your Pregnancy?

Is The Fear Of Miscarriage Stopping You From Enjoying Your Pregnancy?

  If you lose your baby before the 23rd week of pregnancy, the medical term for your loss, is miscarriage.   NHS statistics state that 1 in 5 of us will experience this at one point or another, other sources quote 1 in 4.   When it’s happening to you,  knowing the fact that many of your friends, cousins or sisters have gone through a similar journey, might make you feel a little less isolated.  For me, it was cold comfort.  It made me feel, that it wasn't my place to make a big deal out of things, because so many women go through this every day and get on with it....I know that was my problem, but that's how it felt. Anyway, as they so often say, time and a boisterous toddler, meant that I was able to move beyond my feelings of grief for what might have been and focus on the future.  When the hubby and I found out that we were pregnant again, quite soon after our previous bad news, I don’t think I was truly prepared for how much the loss of our second baby, would impact how I would feel about becoming pregnant again. In comparison to first time around, the first half of my pregnancy was pretty angst ridden.  We were entitled to an extra scan because of what had happened before...

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Is 2 Years Old Too Early To Be Thinking About Childbirth?

  Did you ever meet that girl? You know, the one who had been talking about and planning her wedding before she’d even got a boyfriend?  She'd been imagining her dress since she was 5 years old...And if you dared to mention colour schemes, she’d be able to dive into her wedding box and pull out five different napkins! Now I’m not going to lie, in the past, I would've probably looked at that girl, with a mixture of pity, whilst discretely checking the room for exit signs.  But now, as my daughter approaches the ripe old age of 1 and a half that ‘Wedding Planner Woman’ is my inspiration.   I've been  planning how I’m going to talk to Coco, about her birth story, almost from the day she was born and as soon as she has a few more words under her belt,  I'm going to relish telling her all about it.  And here's why. Fear about giving birth often starts with our mother’s story and because it’s our mothers’ story, by default it often becomes our story.  When it’s positive, great.   But if the tale is one of pain, trauma and difficulty; whether we consciously appreciate it or not, that story hugely impacts the confidence we have, in our own ability to give birth in a positive way. When we...

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