Highlights
- 08:44 — Why ‘How are you?’ can feel unanswerable
Suzy explains why this everyday question becomes loaded, overwhelming, and impossible to respond to honestly when grief is fresh. - 10:00 — “Sometimes the best support is just being in it with them.”
A powerful reflection on what it really means to hold space for someone whose world has changed forever. - 11:41 — The real meaning of showing up consistently
Suzy reveals why the texts that come again and again, not just once, quietly become lifelines.
Quotes
- “Sometimes the best support is not fixing anything, but being in the mess with the person you love.”
- “Don’t say ‘You know where I am.’ Show them where you are through your consistent presence.”
- “Even when someone has no capacity to reply, your message still lands. It reminds them they aren’t alone.”
Download the full transcript here
How to show up for someone who’s grieving
Grief rearranges you. It rearranges time, identity, priorities, and the way you present yourself to the people you love. Today I am sharing what it’s really like to navigate personal loss while trying to support someone whose entire world has just been shattered.
This isn’t advice from a distance. It’s real-time wisdom gathered from the middle of the storm.
I reflect on the sudden passing of my 13 year old niece Tahlia, the complexities of being one step removed from the centre of the grief, and why the instinctive question “How are you?” can feel impossible for someone in mourning to answer.
This episode is a guide for anyone trying to support a loved one through loss.
If you or someone you love is grieving, this episode will help you understand what support really looks like.
