- Build in some ritual. Yes, I know this sounds woo (and it can be if you want it to be) but it’s about pausing. It’s about being intentional, and we can do that however we want and in any way that feels good.
- Release the belief that things have to look a certain way. Trust that everything is working out. If things did turn out in a different way than you had hoped, allow yourself to grieve – let yourself feel all the emotions and then think about how you can move forward into this new space. Let go of ‘It’s supposed to look like X’. Remember that things won’t always look how you have written them down or envisaged them. There are infinite possibilities and the idea that our tiny brains can understand all of these possibilities is ridiculous. We are also living in the illusion that we are fully in control. We have to learn to release the steering wheel. As a mother or not, we are no more in control of many things. We control the things we can and let go of the things we can’t.
- Hold onto your ‘why’. Why are you in the business you’re in? Focus on being who you are, on sharing what lights you up and on the reasons behind that. This will attract your ideal clients to you. Being in the raw space of new motherhood, you are naturally honed in on this instinctively – perhaps this is why so many women (myself included) have huge successes, high-income months and make important changes to their lives and businesses in the months after becoming mothers.
- Gather your people. The women who inspire you. The women who support you. The women who live their lives like you would like to. Move in their circles (in person and on social media).