One of the challenges that came up in yesterday’s mastermind session was how to protect yourself from negative energy. I’ve heard it said many times before that your clients are the mirror of the things you need to be dealing with and when I woke up thinking about that challenge this morning, it was easy to spot where I have been allowing other people’s negative energy to drain me.
Step 1: awareness
Step 2: resolve
So what is the resolution how do you stop becoming a sponge to other people’s feelings?
Many years ago now I went on a personal development course called The Landmark Forum, it was an intense few days where they cut right through all of your own bullshit stories, that keep you going around in circles, playing small and not living up to your full potential. One of the most long lasting lessons, I took from my time with Landmark, is to take responsibility for EVERYTHING that happens in your life.
And this morning as I thought about how I was letting other people ‘get to me’. I realised it’s because I haven’t been taking responsibility.
There are so many examples where I can say, ‘my husband’s attitude is pissing me off, this client isn’t doing x,y and z, my kids are driving me insane….’ I mean the list really is endless.
And what I realise is every time I blame someone else’s responses, reactions, or inactions on my mood, I dis-empower myself a little.
Every time we dis-empower ourselves, we chip away at our own confidence that tells us we can and will achieve anything. We are all of a sudden at the mercy of circumstance, other people’s whims, market conditions.
We stop being the creator of our own destiny and start waiting for signs or permission to feel and think in a certain way.
So the answer to the question of how do you protect yourself from other people’s negative energy is a simple one.
Take responsibility for everything you do, say and feel.
When someone approaches you with the weight of the world on their shoulders, negative stories, anger. We have a choice about how we are going to respond.
We have a choice about whether we are going soak it up, make their story about us, get sucked into the drama or not.
We always have a choice.
Remember the only thing you can control is you.
So over to you, where have you been passing the buck? Where can you take your power back?
Who do you want to be? Set the intention and stick to it.
Time to take responsibility.