When is it ok to stop giving?
The importance of setting boundaries and saying ‘no’
As an entrepreneur, leader, mother and friend, there are many areas in my life where I am expected to be the gift that keeps on giving. I’m sure you feel it too. You’re trying to be 100% present for those in your personal life, while doing everything you can to push your vision and your mission professionally and get your message out there to your audience. No matter how hard you try, it just never seems to be enough.
And it can get you into quite the tail spin. The more you give, the more is expected of you – it’s a vicious cycle.
But what if, my love, I told you that the person setting these unattainable standards… is you?
I know, because I’ve been there.
But as I’ve got older, I’ve naturally become better at setting boundaries and sticking to them. In fact, I’ve become EXTREMELY freaking good at getting clear on what I am available for and what I’m not.
And I think that the main reason for this is… if I allow people to cross my boundaries, I compromise my values. My number one value of freedom, and of course my value of personal happiness.
Being really freaking clear on where I draw the line has allowed me to enjoy success in my professional life, and more freedom and appreciation in my personal life.
Here’s how you can do the same:
- Know your worth
I see this so much. People trying to do allofthethings, allofthetime. And it’s this feeling of ‘if I just do this, or that, will you see my worth?’, or ‘I don’t want you to say anything bad about me, so I’m just going to give you what you ask, even if it makes me feel uncomfortable’. And it’s so, so wrong. Remember – the only person who can decide your worth is you. You decide what you will offer, when you will offer it, and what the investment will be. You decide, and then you stick to it.
- Stop comparing
Yourself to others that is. Your comparison-itis is absolutely standing in the way of you following YOUR path and sharing YOUR message with YOUR dreamboat clients. Stop looking at other people and comparing what they are doing with your own work. Just because something works for them, doesn’t mean it will work for you. You have a different mission, and a different vision, and you’re entirely different people – tune into what feels good for you and go with that.
- Be realistic
A lot of the time it simply comes down to the fact you’re putting too much on your plate. The reason others are expecting too much from you, is because you’ve promised them something you can’t deliver. This is a tough one to crack because it requires you being really, super honest with yourself about what you can achieve, and may even mean you turning down work. But it’s better to do less and give your whole self than not be able to serve properly. You have a responsibility to your clients.
If you found this insightful, then you might want to listen to The Limitless Life Experience Podcast episode if you haven’t already.
And as always, drop me a message and let me know about your experience on this topic – I love hearing from you!
All the love,
Faith + Action = Miracles