Love Yourself Hard
I wanted to share with you two books that I have been reading that have been quite transformational for me. Check out the vlog to know more:
The first is called Pussy: A Reclamation, but Regena Thomashauer. She’s also known as Mama Gena and she talks a lot about women’s sensuality and sexuality. This book is one that I was gifted earlier on in the year by an old mentor; I picked it up and started reading it, and I put it back down, and I picked it up, and I put it back down. Two weeks ago, I started reading it again. It’s my bedtime read.
Oh my god, everything just kind of clicked into place. She talks a lot about the use of the word pussy, which you can quite easily substitute for intuition. She is talking about the divine feminine and our ability to really celebrate ourselves and tune into the strength of our own intuitive power, through the pussy. One of the things that I’ve really taken from this book is the need for me to do things that make me feel exquisite. Whether that be really acknowledging and appreciating things I do already and reframing them, so for example, I really am more mindful that when I drink water and it’s at room temperature, and I’m able to drink close to a pint, that that feels exquisite to me. When I’m able to go to bed earlier and I have the sheets wrapped up around me, and I’m able to go to sleep, that that is exquisite. When I’m then able to get up earlier I can recognise that it is an act of self-love, and that feels exquisite to me.
Talking to myself in that way and really looking at the activities that I’m doing and asking myself does this make me feel exquisite or not? If it doesn’t, then really why am I doing it? If I am doing it, and it feels exquisite, really acknowledging that makes me feel in a physical way really, really good. I really recommend this book.
As an extension of that, a few weeks back whilst I was in South Africa, I read a book called Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It by Kamal Ravikant. It’s a very short book. Once again, it’s about self-love and self-care. One of the recommendations in it is to take your time to really tell yourself how much you love yourself. Sometimes I recommend to clients that they tell themselves they love themselves in the mirror for a couple of minutes. It’s called mirror work and I borrowed it from Louise L. Hay, it’s really great.
I’ve taken this a step further, and it feels really exquisite. When I’m meditating, I will go from the tips of my toes, right the way through my entire body, and tell myself how much I love myself. By the time I’ve finished meditating for around 15 minutes, my whole body is tingling with beautifully exquisite energy. I’ve only been doing this for a relatively short time, so just this week, but I can honestly say that these things – reframing my everyday actions and really being mindful of how it makes me feel – mean that I’m starting my day intentionally loving myself. I feel this has already been hugely transformational when it comes to how I’m feeling about this next step in my business, how I’m writing, how I’m talking, how I’m engaging with my husband, how I’m engaging with my kids. It feels beautifully transformational.
When we feel good as individuals, when we’re appreciating ourselves and our value as individuals, it makes it so much easier to show up fully as required in your business. It’s been said many, many times before. It was said many, many times again. That often your business is a reflection of how you’re feeling about yourself. I know that that is hard if you’re feeling a bit stuck, but I encourage you, especially if you’re feeling stuck, to really focus on acknowledging your brilliance, acknowledging how amazing you are. Really focus on that self-love aspect. Tell yourself as many times as you can and then notice where it’s being reflected back to you in your conversations, in your interactions, in your business transactions.
I’m laying down the gauntlet for you to practice this over the next week and feedback to me, either drop me an email or feedback to me if you’re in one of my groups, let me know if you are noticing how feeling better about yourself and coaching yourself into acknowledging how much you love yourself, coaching yourself into really acknowledging how exquisite you can feel in the moment by moment basis, how that’s transforming other areas of your life. I’m really keen to hear how you get on.