The worst thing that can happen to a speaker
In this video, I’m sharing something that happened to me, something that some people get so scared of that it stops them stepping out in the first place.
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Any time that you’re putting yourself up there, putting your heart, your work, your dreams, your thoughts, your everything up on stage, the one thing that we are all terrified of is someone saying, “that’s a load of shit.”
A while ago, I was teaching a 3hr workshop to a group of about 30 women. There was a really great vibe. We were talking about the mindset shifts needed to treat a business more as a business.
About two hours in, one of the ladies at the front said, “I just don’t agree with that.” Then she looked to the lady next to her and she went, “Do you agree with that? I just don’t agree with that.” And both of the women really just expressed their displeasure at what it was that I was teaching and sharing.
Everyone was really supportive in the room, and I received some lovely messages afterwards from people telling me I handled it really well.
Here’s the thing. The worst thing that could have happened to me on stage did, and I didn’t die. I still delivered a great workshop.
I’m actually really grateful to those women, particularly one of them who came up to me between sessions and explained that she wasn’t trying to be confrontational, she just had a different opinion.
We are all entitled to our own opinions, and as a coach and mentor, I really recognise that there are a million and one roads to roam.
If what you’re doing is working for you, knock yourself out. If it’s not, commit to learning. Take what you like and leave the rest.
This was not a personal attack on me.
It’s important for you to take on board that as you step out of your comfort zone there will always be people who disagree. If you choose to take it personally, it’s going to hurt, but the moment you’re able to respect that other people have different perspectives, it’s a lot easier to let it go.
Do the things that scare you. Don’t worry about people not getting you. Don’t worry about the criticism and the critique. Tune into where the opportunities for learning are and how you can evolve. What do you need to take aboard? What do you need to release? And obviously, the thing that underpins all of that is really knowing your message, knowing who you are, and then cultivating the confidence to share that.